Hard Word, The
Rabu, April 28th, 2010|
IMDB rating: 6.00 Plot: Three fraternal bank robbers languishing in jail, discover a profitable (if not dodgy) way to spend their time. Crime can most certainly pay, if you “know wot I mean?” However when sex and greed rear-up between the good crims and the bad cops, the consequences are both bizarre and fatal. |
Actors: Pearce Guy,Taylor Robert,Edgerton Joel,Richardson Damien,Colosimo Vince,Sonkkila Paul,Gyngell Kym,Nkono Dorian,Whittaker Stephen,Neilson Torquil,Bridges Don,Bowles Doug,Crime,Drama,Comedy,Thriller,
I feel like I am loosing everything?
I have 2 kids with my husband of 4 yrs, We have built a house, getting ready to start a business, we were trying for another baby, We are now going get a divorce because of some "unforgivable" things my husband has done, I have lately been a victom of sevire physical and mental abuse, and though I DO NOT want to be with him, because I cannot take any more I am sad to think that I am "loosing" everything, the house i have worked so hard for, a business, the only thing i can say that keeps me going is my kids. I dont understand why I am so sad if I know it is something i HAVE to do. I am afraid of being alone, I am afraid no one would want me bc i have 2 kids, i just really need some words of encouragement =(
You’re just disappointed. It’s natural. You’re grieving the loss of what you thought would be in your life for a long time.
Just remember that 5 years from now this will only be an unpleasant memory. Two kids is not a deterrent for most men! Many single adults have a kid or two and possibly a divorce or two under their belt, lol. You’ll have a house again some day, and being alone is really really helpful with personal growth. Just surrender to it and don’t forget to treat yourself well. Discover something that makes you happy and confident and do it. Learn something, socialize, etc.
Good job leaving him and good luck to you.
Ms. Monster | Feb 08, 2010
To borrow a cheesy cliche, they say it’s darkest before dawn.
We’re creatures of habit. It’s always scary to take the first steps in a new direction. Try to remember that before the marriage you were, in fact, alone and probably quite comfortable with it.
As far as possessions: You need essentials. All else is optional. In time, it will all work out. The tough part is to have faith that it will. I’ve seen much tragedy in my professional life. The saddest were always the incidents where people gave up in desperation. The sun always rose the next day…
Grunting Caterpillar | Feb 08, 2010
look.. jus b practical.. find a work of ur caliber outside ur husand’s business..be financially independant. next, if ur husband abuses u physically or mentally, report it to the police-atleast they will keep a track of the happenings with u.
thirdly, b very forward regarding ur kis cuz they shudnt b hampered by all these..
b strong n the lady of he ‘need’.. stand up and fight for ur justice. ITS UR LIFE!!
Luv Shona.. | Feb 08, 2010
Material things dont make a life.. and deep down u know that.. what i think your feeling mostly is the loss of the "dream" , but where one door closes another one opens.. and ALOT of guys dont have problems being with a woman that has kids, heck most of the single "men" out there have children of their own from their own divorces.. so thats just crazy thinking there..
The great thing about material things, is u can always buy more.. u cant buy your mental status, you cant buy your phsyical status, you cant buy your childrens mental stability.. You’ve made the right choice.. your just scared of the unknown .. (been there done that) but once u get things started again, and get into a routine.. you wont be so scared.. and u’ll end up feeling like this huge weight has been lifted off of u.. Life goes on.. and houses, cars , jobs.. they tend to come and go.. your "life" doesnt revolve around those things, your life is your family.. and doing what is right for all of u , is more important then any material thing.. u can always buy another.. lifes to short to stress about the little things.. .. u deserve to be happy, u deserve to be treated with respect, your children deserve to be raised in a happy, healthy home with out witnessing anger and abuse.. your children deserve to feel safe and secure in their own home and not worried about what may or may not happen today.. and thats more important then owning a house, or starting a business.. and with a horrible , disfunctional marriage why on earth would u want to bring another child into that ??? And your not "alone" u have 2 children that are dependent on you.. find the strength within you for them.. and you’ll eventually see down the road u made the right choice.. again its just scary because u dont have a crystal ball to show u that it will all work out.. u just have to have Faith..
brwneyedgrl | Feb 08, 2010
It is scary to venture forth, and loose the things you worked for. But life does have a way of working out in spite of loosing a spouse, or having to move on. everyone who has ever had to make the decision to leave their spouse is sad even if they know they have to. It is a big shock to have to venture into the unknown, but its far better than to continue to be abused. The man and home can be replaced, your life can’t be.
jude | Feb 08, 2010
Girl let me tell you, I went through the same exact scenario as you have. and i will say get out when you can as soon as you can and don’t look back. Concentrate on what your gut is telling you to do, but remind your self that its best for you, trust me it’s going to feel like the end of the world, afraid of being alone, not strong enough to make it in the world. But ask yourself are you with in your heart and mind and your guts Are you the person you know that you are. inside yes she is still there, outside and to your surroundings your not. and that is because of the mental abuse. my ex husband use to tell me you cant leave me because no one will ever take you in and your two kids. Put me down not in harsh words just always small or big gestures that were hurtful or put doubt with my own self, well make a long story short I wasted 5 years of begging and asking him to leave and always within those years of bull crap and built of frustration of my own sanity to free myself to be happy again, knew what i needed to do to be me and for my children, up and left everything behind everything that i bought my apartment furniture, luckily my mom let me stay with her to get back on my feet, and had to get a restraining order, so he couldn’t call, or show up because of the guilt of feeling like everything is my fault when it wasn’t, but hearing him or seeing him come by and being nice, would keep drawing me back because of my lack of self esteem and fear of loneliness. Find some outside of support, family councilor to help with taking the steps of finding you again. and just do it, don’t listen to the crap he tries to make You feel guilty of what ever about , and believe you me, There are plenty of better fish in the see, I found many and finally found one that keeps me happy, the key is don’t jump into another relationship too fast or it will fail you need you good luck i hope things work out for you
Butterfly | Feb 08, 2010